Coping with Grief

The death of a friend or family member can be a huge shock, even if it was expected or not. There are some things and ways to get support that individuals can do to look after themselves when grieving. 

After the funeral, it will seem that everyone else’s life has gone back to normal and you may be left wondering how you are going to cope and move forward.Unfortunately, there is no instant fix when it comes to grief and individuals might feel affected for days, months or even years – there is no set time on how long someone should grieve. Usually it takes more time than we realise and can be even more difficult if circumstances involve making major practical changes to our lifestyles such as moving house.

Here are a some ways to take care of yourself that may be useful:


Some individuals may lose their appetites when grieving, but in most cases their appetite should start to return when they have had time to grieve and process everything. Others may start to eat unhealthy foods or just not feel like cooking at all. It is always best to try and eat as healthily as possible, as this can give you the energy that is needed to help get things done and make you feel better.

Express yourself

Talking to a friend, family member, Counsellor or Health professional is often a good way of helping to soothe painful emotions. Just by opening up and talking to someone can begin the healing process.

Keep your routine up

By just keeping up with your daily routine or doing simple things like the housework can help you keep focused.

Allow yourself to feel sad and cry

Being sad is one of the most healthier part of the grieving process. Always allow yourself the time to get upset and have a cry as this is the body’s way to reduce stress and soothe itself. This is a normal reaction to a death, it doesn’t matter if it is days, weeks, months or even years after the death, never question why you are crying – always allow your self to cry.


The emotional strain can make you feel extremely tired. Doing some exercising during the day and avoiding caffeine and alcohol can help with irregular sleeping. If you are experiencing sleeping problems then a visit to the GP may be required.

Go to Counselling – Only if it feels right for you

If it feels right to you and you would like to start opening up, then maybe counselling sessions can help. This may be very useful to some individuals after a few weeks or months, but only you will know when and if you are ready.

Avoid numbing the pain

Don’t turn to distractions like alcohol to help with numbing the pain. This will make you feel worse once the numbness wears off.