Emotional Effects of Grief

The death of someone close to you can be emotionally devastating. People can experience a range of emotions when dealing with grief, these feeling may last a short period of time or in some cases they may be there for longer. Emotional feelings may occur at any time of the grieving process, this may be either straight after the death or months/weeks afterwards.

These feelings can be overwhelming and often frightening, however these are all normal and understandable feelings that do tend to ease over time.

Some of the common natural reactions that some people have described are:

Shock and Disbelief

After the loss it can be extremely hard to accept what has happened and have a numb feeling. Some might have trouble believing that the loss really happened and may keep expecting them to show up.


Experiencing a loss can trigger a lot of worries and fears as it feels like your world has been turned upside down. People may feel anxious, helpless, insecure and even suffer with panic attacks. Fears may be about your own mortality of life without the loved one or the responsibilities that you might face alone.


Sadness if probably the most universal experienced symptom of grief. People may have feelings of emptiness, despair, yeaning or deep loneliness and may also cry a lot of the time and feel emotionally unstable.


Some people may regret or feel guilty about the things that did or didn’t get said or done before the death. Some may feel guilty about certain feelings, for example feeling relieved if the person has died after a long, difficult illness. In some cases it can very difficult to not feel guilty for not doing anything to help prevent the death, even if there was nothing more that could of have done.


Even if the loss was nobodies fault, some may feel angry and resentful. People may feel the need to blame someone for the pain that they are feeling and will be angry with themselves, God, doctors or even the person who has died for abandoning them. Some could even be angry at themselves because they didn’t have the time to say the things that they really felt.